It seems to me the answer is that its mother can.
You are trying to separate whether the mother can parent, whether her own needs get in the way.
How can a mother so misunderstand her own child?
A mother, thought Claire, cannot knight her own son.
I think so, mother - at least more than anything else can.
A mother cannot wrong a son to such a degree that he will not save her in time of danger.
She drives like a bank robber, and calms my new baby as only a mother of six can.
If the parents are not married, however, a father cannot pass on Austrian citizenship, whereas a mother can.
"Your mother can," he said, but sounded only half convinced.
"As one mother to another, can't you do something?"