But I think the make-over fetish feeds a fundamental female fantasy.

Q. How do male and female fantasies differ?

In the female fantasy, the hero is always a one-woman man.

"I've never come across a book of female sexual fantasies, so why not write one?"

A common female sexual fantasy of this era is to be so "captured" by some handsome barbarian warrior who will keep you as a slave.

The other central female fantasy is finding a professional organizer, someone to come in and efficiently deal with your "thing" problem.

But your female fantasy isn't a woman in black lace.

There is one final, ornery joke to iron out, something to do with the difference between male and female sexual fantasies.

In some ways it's male and female fantasies coinciding.