"They had a marvelous romance in her senior year," recalled a cousin, Jane Gevirtz of Manhattan.

Her cousin recalled that she giggled nervously throughout the service.

His cousin, Sharon Bailey, recalled, "We all went to church together, with my mother driving me, Roderick and his sister to Sunday school each week."

"I was telling him, 'Don't go,' " the cousin recalled saying to Mr. Brown.

The cousin later recalled: "Elmer slid across the ice on his belly and pulled me out."

Gedeon's cousin recalled: "The last time I saw him, he told me, 'I had my accident.

His cousin did not recall him ever expressing radical or anti-American views.

"It was gastronomic assault," one cousin recently recalled of the ginger ale with apricot schnapps that Dad foisted on him.

A cousin recalled Officer Danz's final words to his wife, left on an answering machine Sept. 11.

His younger cousins also recalled his generosity with them for "candy money"; just as he was seen on television as Andy, he always had his cigar.