"That's called statutory rape in my century," she said with an edge in her voice.

One man called to say that because the girls had walked into the motel room, it was not fair to call it rape.

It is recovery from what might be called spiritual rape.

Mike acknowledges that there was "mental abuse" in their marriage, but not what he'd call rape.

Their mothers insist, very often, that they should call it rape.

Then, as I say, mum tells the girl to call it rape.

If you want to get psychological you could call it symbolic rape.

Would someone say that she must have wanted it, so it couldn't really be called rape?