Victorian ladies apparently didn't talk about such things in public.
An important thing to understand is that a Victorian lady was not supposed to experience sexual feelings.
"Doesn't this painting reflect her life as a Victorian lady?"
There were many things a well-bred Victorian lady didn't do.
Was it a symbol of her discontent as a Victorian lady?
Another is a maternal Victorian lady, well dressed and with "a passion for drink".
The skirts were so long that he had to gather them in one hand like a Victorian lady picking her way across a muddy street.
She put her hand on his arm and let him lead her across the runway like a Victorian lady under escort.
A Victorian lady discovers the man of her dreams.
Jennifer, a sensible Victorian lady who becomes an invaluable member of the crew.